How a dad spends his time (his habits) determine whether he is an average dad or a good dad.
What is a habit? A habit is a behavior you do over and over again. It’s a daily thing. For example, brushing your teeth, eating healthy, these things are habits.
The 7 Habits of a 24/7 Dad® class at ACPC looks at the difference between how an average dad and a good dad handles the 7 Habits. The 7 Habits of a 24/7 Dad is an 8-hour workshop that combines the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People with the fathering Principles of the National Fatherhood Initiative’s 24/7 Dad® program.
The 7 Habits of a 24/7 Dad™
1) Be Proactive
The way we see the problem is the problem. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad is reactive. He doesn’t consider the consequences of his actions. The proactive dad does the opposite. He considers the consequences of his actions.
2) Begin with the End in Mind
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad wanders through life. The good dad understands he can shape his future. This takes creating a picture of what he want his life to stand for.
3) Put First Things First
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad lives in crisis. He always feels busy. Is this the dads you serve? A good dad knows to plan his week and make time for his priorities.
4) Think Win-Win
While we are free to choose our actions, we are not free to choose the consequences of our actions. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad competes with everything and every one. Win-Win agreements have the following five elements…
Desired Results > What’s the job or task the child needs to accomplish?
Guidelines > How will the child get the job done?
Resources > What does the child need to get the job done?
Accountability > How will dad know whether the child is getting the job done?
Consequences > What are the rewards or consequences of completing or not completing the task?
5) Listen First, Talk Second
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad does the opposite of this habit, he Talks First, Listens Seldom. Dr. Stephen R. Covey was known for saying…
“I think the deepest hunger of the human soul is to be recognized, valued, appreciated, and understood. When you acknowledge others and adapt yourself in an effort to reach them, in effect you say to them, “You matter. You are a person of worth…”
Synergy is better than my way or your way.
It’s our way. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
The average dad lives in conflict with his kids. On the other hand, the good dad works with his child, creating a feeling of “togetherness” or “synergy.”
You can help teach dads to recognize the importance of being there for his child.
7) Sharpen the Saw
Effective leadership is putting first things first.
Effective management is discipline, carrying it out. —Dr. Stephen R. Covey
What’s “sharpen the saw” mean? It means a dad takes care of his relationships. The average dad neglects his kids.
Just like a dad and his four areas of care from above, a child has areas that require constant attention: Brain (Mind), Heart (Emotional), Body (Physical), and Spirit (Spiritual).
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